Tips for Making the Positive Comments Outweigh the Negative in Your Child’s Day

Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #7-Watch Your Language

This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about using positive language with others. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of unplugging.

Kids hear 432 negative comments per day vs. 32 positive ones. (Source-K. Kvols, Redirecting Children’s Behavior). Wow! Read those numbers again; 432 negatives to 32 positives. Ugh. That makes me so sad.

As I’ve pointed out in my past two posts our brains create thoughts, memories and feelings via neurons. With each new experience the electrical current fires in a certain sequence, the more often they fire, the more likely they’ll be to fire in the same sequence next time. Eventually the repetition creates deeper pathways. Just like with playing piano or riding a bike, the more you do it the more natural it is. When we have negative thoughts our brain fires more negatively and vice versa. With 400 more negative comments a day that must be one deep pathway! How can we break this pattern?

Here are some ways I’m trying to make more positive comments in my kids’ day:


I’d love to compile a list of YOUR suggestions for ways to increase positive comments in our kids’ day. Please leave a comment below. I’ll put a list off all the suggestion together and share in another post.  Please share this post and invite your friends and family to contribute to the list as well. The more ideas we have the easier it will be to convert those 432 negatives into positives.


Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

How to talk to your kids – Amy from The Connection We Share discovers the power of using positive language with your kids.

Watch Your Words – Amber from feels better about her parenting when she’s using more positive language.

The Power of Words – Peaceful Parenting Challenge Week 7 – Katrina from Kalem Photography is trying to figure out positive phrasing for some things she’d like her 2 year old to stop doing.

Week 7 – Watch Your Language!– Amanda from Sticky Hands suggests we start saying out loud things you love and things you want to happen.

Watch Your Language! -Lolly from My Journey Home is attempting to communicate positively with her teen.

Language and Distractions – Peaceful Parenting Challenge: Week 7 – Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat is a bit distracted.

Positive Communication – Ricky from Daddy Blogger  realized how often the words “Don’t” and “Can’t” and “No” tend to pop up in our conversations with our kids.


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