Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #1 Creating Awareness.
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about creating awareness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Mindful Breathing.
The first week of our Peaceful Parenting Challenge had us focus on creating awareness, specifically becoming more aware of our triggers. For those of you taking this challenge with me; how did your week go?
I have been trying to bring a greater awareness to my triggers for a few months now, so I felt like I was a little ahead of the game this week. Plus I had a few stressors that made my triggers more sensitive, which can help when trying to identify them. In particular I’ve noticed that when I’m tired or stressed I get triggered more often. I’ve also noticed that when I don’t take time for meditating or doing yoga first thing in the morning that my patience level goes way down.
Another stressor I’ve noticed that my son has apparently inherited from me is hunger. In our house we call it hangry because we both get angry over the smallest things when we are hungry. It’s amazing how having a healthy snack can change our mood and set us back on track.
After taking a look at the times I was being triggered over and over again I realized that it often comes down to trying to balance being a stay-at-home-mom and working from home. When I have a work deadline and I have the kids at home with me I often find myself feeling overwhelmed. The regular demands that young children make really start getting under my skin. The daily up-keep of the house feels like it is spiraling out of control; everywhere I look there is another mess to clean, another mouth to feed (are mine the only kids that seem to eat constantly?), and another load of laundry to do.
My children usually become more needy on these days. Their whining and tugging on me to get my attention further fuels my annoyance. I start to feel unproductive which triggers me even more. I feel like I’m being pulled in too many directions and am not doing anything well. All these feelings spawn in me intense emotions of annoyance, frustration and often anger. Unfortunately these feelings make me react in ways towards my children in which I’m not proud of. The sound of me yelling has become all too familiar to my children. I’m hopeful this challenge will change that.
This exercise confirmed a few things I’ve noticed in the past few months and has pushed me to be more committed to the changes I’ve been trying to implement.
Eat like a baby – Having healthy snacks prepared and ready to just grab, so I can eat every two hours and keep the hangry at bay.
Having a bedtime for myself – Setting a bedtime so I don’t stay up too late working or watching TV (aka unwinding) so I can ensure I get a full night’s sleep.
Waking early for self-care time –Pushing myself to get out of bed early to meditate or do some yoga in my room. I have found that this is more important than the extra 30 minutes of sleep.
Schedule Time for Work & Play – Knowing that I have a few hours set aside later in the day for uninterrupted work makes walking away from work to just have fun with my kids easier.
I’ve noticed a real difference in my mood when I follow these proactive steps. What proactive steps do you find help tame your triggers?
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